How to Handle Sensitive Essay Topics

“Try to write in a directly emotional way, instead of being too subtle or oblique. Don’t be afraid of your material or your past….If something inside you is real, we will probably find it interesting, and it will probably be universal. So you must risk placing real emotion at the center of your work. Write straight into the emotional center of things. Write toward vulnerability.”



This is from Anne Lamott, from her popular how-to writing book called Bird By Bird. (I highly recommend this guide, especially if you want to read one of the best books on learning how to write.)

Lamott takes a lot of risks with her writings, especially in her memoirs, and has the courage to splash all her insecurities, flaws and mistakes all over the pages.

But because she sticks to the often-blemished truth, she is both poignant and hilarious.

With these college admissions essays, I think that you can write the most compelling pieces if you are willing to take a hard, honest look at yourself and life—especially something that you weren’t necessarily proud of but somehow turned around or learned from or changed for the better—and share some of that with the reader.

When you write about any type of problem, include how it made you feel. Open up. Share your thoughts and opinions. Be vulnerable.

It is always a tough question about picking a topic that is too controversial or sensitive when writing college admissions essays.

You certainly don’t want them to think you are a total freak.

But my opinion is that if your topic helps you reveal something special or unique about yourself—go for it!!

One trick when writing about potentially loaded topics is to write more generally about the sensational parts, such as describing someone’s illness or injury.

In other words, if something is really graphic, just provide enough information so the reader understands what you are talking about.

If you get the sense that what you are writing about is a total turn-off or is just trying to shock or push hot buttons, of course, avoid it.

But if you are genuine and truthful, I think it’s worth a try.

Always have someone you trust read your work to get some neutral feedback.

You can always tone it down, if necessary.

 

Choosing a College Application Topic: Another Trick

  Some college counselors advise students to think of their life as a book and write down some chapter titles. Then pick one you like and expand upon it. This naturally directs the essay into a narrative (story-telling) delivery.

I thought of a few from my own background as examples:


“Chasing grizzlies in Wyoming”
“Playing cribbage with my new blind friend”
“Burning crepes at the Magic Pan”
“Working the graveyard shift at White Castle”
“How I became student body president–by accident”
“The day I spent in the New York bus station”

See what you come up with. You might be surprised that you have a bestseller! Click HERE for other posts to help you find the magic topic!

Essay Topic Ideas: Start Small


So many students have trouble finding an essay topic. It is such a tough assignment to be asked to write a short essay that shows what you are about. The tendency is to try to include as many cool things as possible–their good works, their achievements, their everything.


When students try to cram too many points or subjects into their essays, they become broad and the meaning and ideas then spread thin. Students who understand the idea of picking one smaller highlight or mini-story and use that to illustrate something about themselves tend to produce essays that naturally reveal something deeper.


Think of how water sinks into the ground: wide and shallow, or contained and deep.
It’s one of those things that is hard to explain, but easier to recognize when you see it.
For example, here are just a couple topic ideas I have heard in recent weeks from students:


“I make a mean grilled cheese sandwich”

“The time I learned to drive a stick shift”
“Finding creme for my coffee at the Paris airport”

You can see how these students could describe these little moments and then develop them into metaphors about their interests and passions and show something about who they are.

Aren’t these so much better than “I love to cook” or “I am passionate about French”?

Read about how you can tell a story and how to write anecdote in your college application essay.

So, start small and see where it takes you!

Read this post on how to find a topic for your college application essay!

How to Show and Tell your Story

One of the best ways to write about yourself is to start with a little story, also known as an anecdote. Not only are these mini-stories compelling and natural “grabbers,” they are an excellent way to “show” the reader about yourself instead of just “telling” them. (Want to learn how to “show” your reader what sets you apart from the pack, and write in a narrative, or story-telling, style? Read THIS.)

So let’s assume you have chosen your story. (Click HERE to find great story topics!) Now, where do you start? Make sure the beginning has the most interesting, dramatic, compelling part of the story–otherwise you won’t hook your reader. It is quite common to “bury your lead,” that is, have the best part of your story, the highlight, the drama, the irony, etc., too far down in the narrative. If this is the case, just bring it up–and background it later.

Start your story at the best part, even if it happened in the middle. Start with the good stuff, the action, the impact, the peak of the problem, the punch of the moment, whatever has the most “juice.” Usually, you will only describe “a time” or moment that only lasted a few minutes. Often, this incident also will reflect on your larger message–that’s why it has that “juice.”

If you start in the middle of your story, and describe the highlight, you just need to quickly take your reader back to the beginning of your story in the following paragraph. You always want to go back and start at the beginning because that’s the most natural way to tell a story: chronologically. That way, you also end at the end, so writing your conclusion is natural and simple.

Read some sample essays that tell stories and note where the writer starts her or his story, and study how the narrative was handled. If you want more help on writing a mini-story or anecdote, read THIS POST on how to write an anecdote. If you need help getting started with your college admission essay, try my Jumpstart Guide.

 

More on “Show, Don’t Tell”


I remember wanting to improve my writing in high school, and feeling frustrated by all the “tips” in the popular how-to-write books: “Be concise,” “Use action verbs,” and the all-popular, “Show, don’t tell.”
OK, but how do I write better?


Later, I came upon one writing book that made a little more sense, called “Writing Down the Bones,” by Natalie Goldberg.

Here is what she said about “Show, don’t tell,” that helped me:
“‘Don’t tell, but show.’ What does this actually mean? It means don’t tell us about anger (or any of those big words like honesty, truth, hate, love, sorrow, life, justice, etc.); show us what made you angry. We will read it and feel angry. Don’t tell readers what to feel. Show them the situation, and that feeling will awaken in them.”

And she goes on: “Some general statements are sometimes very appropriate. Just make sure to back each one with a concrete picture. Even if you are writing an essay, it makes the work so much more lively.”

One great way to “show” readers is to be specific with your writing and use details! I talk about how to be specific when writing your college application essay in this post.